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The meaning of life

On this peppercorn floating in space there are about 7 billion of us right now. We are born, we live, we die.

So, what is the meaning of our lives while we are on this planet? The fact is that we are an accidental species - one out of millions of evolved species - living on a tiny speck of a planet in a gigantic universe whose size is incomprehensible. This is our reality. Our species could disappear tomorrow for all we know because of an asteroid strike or a nuclear war. The universe would not care. So what is our meaning?

It would be easy to say that our lives have no meaning. But this is untrue. The unique thing about humans is that humans are conscious, intelligent, thinking beings. Humans create meaning. It is the most important thing that we do. Yes we create tools. Yes, we gather knowledge. Yes, we do math and music and so on. We are called Homo Sapiens - the wise apes. But we really might better be called "The apes that create meaning", because we bring meaning into existence with our intelligence and our thinking. We create meaning through conscious choice and conscious acts.

Here is an example. Pull a $20 bill (or its equivalent in your nation) out of your wallet. Examine it rationally. It is a piece of paper with some ink on it. In reality it is a nearly worthless piece of paper. But in our society, this piece of paper has real meaning. If I drop a scrap of newspaper of the same size on the ground, it will be ignored. If I drop a $20 bill on the ground, it will get scooped up instantly. The two objects are almost exactly the same except for the arrangement of the ink molecules on the paper. Yet one scrap of paper can buy $20 worth of food, and the other is worthless.

Our entire monetary system is an abstraction - meaning created by human beings out of thin air and embodied as little scraps of paper, or arrangements of bits in computer memory. Yet this abstraction has so much meaning now that people can die for lack of these scraps of paper. For the tens of thousands of people who die of starvation every day, this abstraction is deadly.

Human beings create meaning. Therefore you can create meaning in your life. We can give our lives meaning in at least four different ways.

Way 1: Generosity, Giving

Do you use Reddit? I'm curious, because I'm a big fan of Reddit. The following story can be found on Reddit and comes from a user named WarToad. It shows one way to create meaning:

I was day tripping to Vancouver from Seattle and stopped in for lunch at a little cafe. From my window I saw a young teenage girl out in the cold, squatted down in a closed up business's doorway, holding a small bundle in her arms. She was panhandling, people were mostly walking by ignoring her. She looked just broken.
I finished up my meal and went outside, went through my wallet and thought I'd give her $5 for some food. I got up to her and she was sobbing, she looked like she was 14-15. And that bundle in her arms was a baby wrapped up. I felt like I just got punched in the chest. She looked up putting on a game face and asked for any change, I asked her if she'd like some lunch. Right next door was a small quick-Trip type grocery store, I got a can of formula for the baby (very young, maybe 2-3 months old.), and took her back to the cafe though I'd just eaten. She was very thankful, got a burger and just inhaled it. Got her some pie and ice cream. She opened up and we talked. She was 15, got pregnant, parents were angry and she was fighting with them. She ran away. She's been gone almost 1 full year.

I asked her if she'd like to go home and she got silent. I coaxed her, she said her parents wouldn't want her back. I coaxed further, she admitted she stole $5,000 in cash from her Dad. Turns out $5,000 doesn't last long at all, and the streets are tough on a 15 year old. Very tough. She did want to go back, but she was afraid no one wanted her back after what she did.

We talked more, I wanted her to use my phone to call home but she wouldn't. I told her I'd call and see if her folks wanted to talk to her, she hesitated and gave bad excuses but eventually agreed. She dialed the number and I took the phone. Her Mom picked up and I said hello, awkwardly introduced myself and said her daughter would like to speak to her. Silence, and I heard crying. Gave the phone to the girl and she was just quiet listening to her Mom cry, and then said hello. And she cried. They talked, she gave the phone back to me, I talked to her Mom some more.

I drove her down to the bus station and bought her a bus ticket home. Gave her $100 cash for incidentals, and some formula, diapers, wipes, snacks for the road.

Got to the bus, and she just cried saying thank you over and over. I gave her a kiss on the forehead and a hug, kissed her baby, and she got on the bus.

I get a Christmas card every year from her. She's 21 now and in college. Her name is Makayla and her baby was Joe.

Now let me ask you a question - would you feel like your life has meaning if you could do something like that for another human being? WarToad spent a few hours, and a few dollars, and he changed not one but two lives, and probably the lives of her parents as well.
You might be thinking, "How can I possibly duplicate that?" Consider how many teens run away - there are about 1.6 million new teen runaways per year in the U.S. Or think about how many kids are living in broken homes and could be helped. Or think about the billions of people living on $1 per day around the world. Or the 10 million kids who will die this year from easily preventable things like starvation and cholera.

It would not be that hard to find someone to help.

One way to create meaning is to help others. This has been a consistent theme for thousands of years across hundreds of philosophies and theologies. It is an indisputable scientific fact that, for most people, in helping others we help ourselves. We enrich our own lives. It is as though helpfulness is wired into the human psyche, and we gain immense benefits when we connect with that wiring. Look inside yourself. Think about how Makayla's story makes you feel. Understand its meaning.

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What about bringing it down to your own home. What if you were to become the ideal spouse? Or the ideal parent? What if you devoted your life to making your kids' lives better. What if you really thought about that and did something to radically improve your family life - the lives of your immediate family? How would you do it?

People often say that a story or event "restored their faith in humanity." What if you, personally, were one of the people who restored faith in humanity? What if we all were, and we did it a couple times a day? How much different would our society be? How much more meaningful would our lives be?

Way 2: Design

The second way to create meaning is to think about your own existence. A typical human being in the developed world has a life expectancy of 70 to 80 years. If you live to the age of 82, that's about 30,000 days.

The most important way to give your life meaning is to simply ask yourself - what is the meaning of my life? "What is the meaning of life?" is not the question. The question is "what is the meaning of my life?" That is the question that matters.

How many of us ask ourselves this question?

What is the meaning of my life?
What is the purpose of my life?
What will I do with my existence?
What will I do with my 30,000 days on earth?
It is in asking this question that we give our lives meaning. It is so simple. Simply ask.
Your life is a series of choices. Your life is a series of opportunities. Your life is a series of decisions. Your life is a series of actions. You control your life, and its meaning, with your daily actions. We often ignore that. Many people often go through life and completely miss it.

We are given three great gifts when we are born. We have:

Our 30,000 days of existence
Our ability to think, to imagine, to dream
Our freedom to make choices in everything we do
It is in understanding these gifts and making the most of them that we give our lives meaning.
But we must ask. "A life unexamined is not worth living." Think about how many people miss that opportunity to do whatever they want with their lives, with their existence.

Please ask yourself this key question: What will I do with my existence? WWIDWME? Ask yourself this question each morning and evening for several weeks and see what develops. What is the meaning of your life? In answering that question you give your life meaning. You can give it far more meaning than you can imagine. You get to design your life.

Way 3: Projects

Many people's lives are significantly enriched and given meaning by the projects they undertake during their lifetimes. These projects might take the form of businesses and charities they start, organizations they actively participate in, causes that they champion, discoveries and inventions that they unlock, books that they write, artworks that they create, hobbies that they pursue, etc.

Think of Albert Einstein. Did his life have meaning? Of course it did. He made some of humanity's most important scientific discoveries. And there are millions of other scientists and engineers who make discoveries every day that improve our lives in myriad ways.

Think of the thousands of authors and artists who have enriched our lives and brought clarity to complicated issues.

Think of all the businesses you interact with each day. Each one has a founder, and then a team of people who keep the business thriving. See How to Make a Million Dollars for ideas.

Think of the charitable organizations all around the world that relieve suffering and raise awareness. Each one started with a single individual or a small handful of people and grew from there.

All of these people (and many others) have made significant contributions to the advancement of our species. Their projects give their lives significant meaning, while also benefiting the rest of us.

Way 4: Unity

We are all in this together.

Me, and you, and everyone on this planet, we are all in this together. We are members of the same species. We are all on the same team.

But we very rarely act like a team. If I were to say to you right now, "What is the goal of the human species?" What would your answer be? Sure, you might be able to make something up, but the fact is that we don't have a goal. We have never talked about it as a species at a worldwide level in a way that has filtered down to all of us so that we all carry a common vision. We haven't talked about it at a national level either, and probably not even at your local level.

And we pay for that. We pay dearly for it.

Imagine the following scenario. The first UFO arrives. It truly arrives. The ship is the size of a small continent and it parks in low earth orbit for all to see. It is utterly amazing. A super-intelligent alien species emerges - thousands of aliens beam down to interview the human species. They do an assessment of the planet. What they discover shocks them:

3 billion of of the people on the planet are destitute.
There are 10 million children dying of easily preventable causes every year - things like starvation, thirst, cholera.
Billions of people lack any form of health care
Environmentally, we are raping the planet in hundreds of ways. A mass extinction event is looming on the horizon, yet we appear unmotivated to do anything at all to prevent it.
Humans are constantly at war, constantly killing one another.
We have enough nuclear warheads to kill all of humanity many times over, all loaded into rockets that we could launch at a moment's notice.
In many cases and at many different levels we seem unable to control ourselves or to stop ourselves even when we know we are wrong.
Now these aliens, they have neither faces nor palms as we understand them, but one of them comes back to the ship doing the alien equivalent of a face palm repeatedly. Another is doing the equivalent of our crying. A third finds his voice: "I talked to one human who said human life is sacred, yet 30,000 children died just today, and every day, of easily preventable causes like hunger and cholera." Another: "They claim that love and peace are their highest values, yet they spend $400 billion a year on men and machines whose sole purpose is to wage war." Another: "I talked to one who said liberty and freedom are the highest values, and yet the majority are trapped in such poverty that they are in essence enslaved by it. Where is the freedom in that?"
To an objective outside observer, we appear to be insane as a species.

When human beings come together in groups with common goals and common purposes, we are often able to accomplish amazing things. Human beings are often able to rise, individually and in groups, to remarkable levels of love and generosity. But more often than not we fail to do that, and we are left with a planet, and a species, in the state observed above.

If you look at us as an outside observer would, as a whole, we are really pretty appalling as a species right now. Just to take the planet's nuclear arsenals as an example: We find ourselves in a situation where the United States has approximately 5,000 operational warheads. And Russia has about the same. Each warhead can destroy an entire city, killing millions of people. We call it the doctrine of mutually assured destruction. "Mutually Assured Destruction" - MAD - even the name sounds like we are insane. Yet this is the best idea we have been able to come up with as a species. And many other countries have warheads as well that they could unleash at any moment for any insane reason.

How do we fix this? We would need to understand that we are all in this together and ask ourselves collectively, What is the meaning of our lives? What do we hope to accomplish as a species? How can we work together to achieve those goals? Our individual lives would have much more meaning if we did this, because we are each playing a part in this larger effort.

What IS our goal as a species? What do we hope to accomplish together? Why is it that we never ask ourselves this question on a global or national basis?

Heaven on Earth

Here is my vision for the human species. I believe that we should create Heaven on Earth for every human being: 6.8 billion people living together peacefully without suffering. We try to get as close to that goal as possible, in an environmentally sustainable way.

What would heaven on earth mean? It would mean that each and every person on the planet has access to an an abundant supply of healthy food and clean water. That each and every person has access to luxurious housing and clothing. That we are all safe. That we can all communicate with everyone. That we all have free and open access to education and entertainment. That cutting edge health care is available freely to everyone, and the cutting edge is advancing as quickly as possible, curing more and more diseases and ailments as fast as we can. And so on. We do that in an environmentally sustainable way. Obviously there would be no wars. Obviously we would have to find ways to resolve our differences. Obviously we would need for it to be environmentally sustainable - otherwise we poison the planet and destroy ourselves.

What if we made that our worldwide goal?

It sounds ridiculous, doesn't it? Impossible. That's because our thinking is so backwards right now. However, robots could make it possible (see also Manna). In fact, robots could make it easy if we designed society to take advantage of them. What if we got creative as a species and discovered new ways to make it happen?

Then what? Having gotten our house in order, what would we like to do next? What is our goal as a species? What do we hope to accomplish with our collective existence?

Let me ask you this. Would our lives be better, would they have more meaning, if we knew we were working together toward common goals as a species? What if we were all consciously working together for common goals, and we all knew that? What if you had a feeling that everybody was trying to help you each day, because we are all members of the same team? Would that make life different? Would that make life better? Would it make life more meaningful? Would that give you more hope looking into the future?

I think it might.

So let's review. What is the meaning of life? There are at least four ways that we can create meaning. We create meaning by helping others. We create meaning by consciously choosing what we will each do with our existence. We create meaning by undertaking significant projects that benefit humanity. And we can also, at a higher level, create meaning for ourselves as a species.

As you go through your life, ask yourself the most important question: What will I do with my existence? WWIDWME? Make the most of your 30,000 days on earth. Strive each day to make positive changes in your own life, and to have a positive impact on the lives of those around you. Decide to be better. It will make a huge difference.